Just to note, I am not nearly the writer that Missy is, but I will contribute periodically to this blog. We decided to do this blog because we thought it would be a fun way to document our adventures and also to nourish our exhibitionist tendencies.
Missy gave an amazing amount of detail into her history and to what has led her to this point in her life and also to me. I will try to do the same. I am definitely more of a bullet point kind of guy.
I have been married for about 15 years. My wife and I have a beautiful family and by all outward appearances and maybe in my wife's mind, a "perfect marriage".
I had been sexually active before marriage but my wife was a virgin. I had been with many women and had an amazing amount of sexual experiences before I was even 20. My wife had kissed a few guys, that was the extent of her previous sexual experience. While I was having fun with all sorts of diversions through high school and college, she was buckling down and applying herself to her studies. How did two seemingly opposites attract? It started with my spiritual awakening in my late teens that blossomed into a full blown religious fervor. Which included much involvement at my church in activities, meetings and even missionary work. I stopped partying and having sex and dedicated myself to God and clean living. That is how Michelle entered the picture. We attended church together.
We dated for a short while, 3 months, became engaged and were married 3 months later. I was happy and so was she. Prior to getting married I told her of my exploits as a younger man and made sure that she did not have a problem with it. I also indicated that our sex life would not be boring or plain vanilla because that is not how I roll. She was fine with that and demonstrated an openness to try new things once we became sexually active. So we were married. Our honeymoon was great we had great sex, considering the circumstances. We had to take it slow at first but she was a quick study. She had certain things that she was not into but made up for it in other areas. She did not like oral sex, she was okay receiving (doesn't love it) but not into giving. Aside from that actual sex was pretty damned good. We had sex 5 or 6 times a week for the first couple years we were married and that was great. We did some light role playing, a little ass play, light bondage (scarves) and good old fashioned fucking.
After our first child, interest in all things sexual began to drop pretty dramatically, it was always one excuse or the other. We still were having sex 2 or 3 times a week. As time has gone by and our family has grown our sex life has become almost non-existent. We have gone over a month without any sexual contact, even with me trying every way under the sun to woo my wife. Massages, candles, flowers, clean house, trips, dates, spa trips...etc. I have tried everything. She is apologetic but has no desire to have sex anymore. With enough guilt trips and whining she will sometimes relent and have sex with me. When we do, it is good, she always climaxes, and afterwards often says "we should do that more often". But we don't.
It is quite a blow to one's self esteem to be continually rejected. I started to look at myself and wonder, what is wrong with me? Is there something wrong and I don't see it? I am in shape, well groomed, I dress nicely, provide well for my family....what is it? She will say it is not me it is her. But it doesn't feel that way.
Besides our sex life, Michelle and I are a great partnership. Our children are well behaved, intelligent and genuinely happy. As a product of divorce and a seriously screwed up family, I am providing my children with the happy home and family I only wished to have as a youngster. We have a nice home with good friends and an active life. We attend church regularly and are involved there as well. But deep in the recesses of my mind there is a sexual being just wanting to be released. Wanting to be wanted and desired and feel physical passion again.
Prior to my current relationship with Missy I have had one other extra-marital affair. It was with an old HS girlfriend who came back into town a couple years ago. She found me through Classmates.com and started e-mailing me. We corresponded over months and began an online affair. She is married as well. She came into town a couple summers ago on vacation and we decided to meet up. We met at a hotel and had an amazing day of sex. It felt so good to just get lost in the physical acts. We exhausted ourselves that day. We knew it was a one time thing.
I am very cautious, so the idea of having an affair with somebody in my immediate circle of friends or acquaintances is not an option. I have had a few opportunities over the years with co-workers and clients that I have avoided because of my concern for discretion.
One afternoon on a particularly slow day at work I was online and decided to look at Craigslist. I went to the personals section. I have always found them entertaining but never saw an ad compelling enough to respond to. This day I looked in the casual encounters section and saw an ad that intrigued me. It was Missy's. It was just what I had been looking for. Someone to fill the void that has been in my life for such a long time and in turn I could help fill her's. So I responded and............................
