T.M.I. TUESDAY - 7 DEADLY SINS

1. LUST: Besides your current Significant Other who do you lust for or have you lusted for? Absolutely NO ONE. Lusting after him is a FULL TIME JOB and I am NOT kidding.



2. GLUTTONY: What food brings out your inner glutton? Carbs...bread, crackers.



3. GREED: What are you greedy for? Too many things right now. I hate greediness, and right now I want more Steven, more money, and more security. I find comfort in the fact that I am a giving person, and these needs are circumstantial.



4. SLOTH: What is your plan for an ideal day of sloth? Cozies (my word for PJs), lots of pillows, lots of sleep, and a certain cutie right next to me.



5. WRATH: Describe a time that you let out a can of whoop ass on someone. Physically? Never. Verbally? Too many to list.



6. ENVY: Who or what do you envy? Why? Right now I envy people that have their shit together. I have a friend that has always been worse off than me, and today it occurred to me that she really has it all together from every aspect, and, well, I don't. I envy people with careers they love, financial stability, and the love of their life under the same roof as them.



7. PRIDE: Have you ever had to swallow your pride? What are you proud of? For the first time in 15 years I don't have a job. That is pride swallowing right there. To know that you are totally dependent on everything but yourself SUCKS. What am I proud of? Myself as a mother. I have great kids. I like who I am as a mom. I like how being a mom feels. My kids bring me joy that is unlike anything else.

T.M.I. TUESDAY

1. Ideal amount of sex per week?

At least 4 times. I think daily would be ideal though.

2. Ever had an online affair?

Exclusively? No. Started one online? Yep.

3. Are you a member of the mile high club?

Nope. Wouldn't mind being one though. After flying across the world, I can see that it would be tempting on one of those 9+ hour flights...

4. Are you prejudiced against any particular group of people?

Only those that are prejudiced against others.

5. What constitutes bad sex?

Selfish sex. Sex with someone that you can't relax and be yourself with. Sex that leaves you hanging and not satisfied in some way, shape, or form. The end result doesn't have to be fireworks, but you should feel good about it. You should feel good about how your partner feels.

T.M.I. TUESDAY

1. What is your underwear "style" of choice? I like it all...and I mix it up. An average week will include boy shorts, thongs, maybe Victoria's Secret cotton briefs, lace cheek showers from Fredericks, and the occasional crotchless pair. I often ask Steven what he is in the mood for before we get together...I like the build up and find it hot to put on panties that he has requested.

2. How old were you when you had your first sexual experience? Wayyyyy too young. 13. He was my first real boyfriend. The first boy I really kissed. He was my first for most things sexual. We were so young, so in love. I could have sworn I would marry him. While I wish I would have waited until I was older, I have no regrets. All of my memories of him are pleasant, and I run into him or his mom once in awhile and am always happy to hear about his wife and kids.

3. What about a potential partner turns you on? I like lips. The mouth area in general. A nice smile. Someone that smells yummy. Tastes yummy. Someone that is smart. Funny. Strong. Adventurous. Someone that has depth.

4. Have you ever played a game which may require you or others to disrobe? I played strip poker when I was 18 and living on my own. My fiance (now husband) and two friends were there. One of the guys suggested it, and so it began. All I remember is that I was SHOCKED at the amount of pubic hair my friend Michele had. Really disturbed.

5. Given or received finger scratch marks during sexual activity? Both. And I love a little hickey or bruise now and then...sometimes I ask Steven for them. Nothing like small reminders of a great time in bed.

Bonus: How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period? I don't have a clue. I really don't.

T.M.I. TUESDAY

1. Have you used put anything edible on (or in) your partner's body and then eaten it? Nope. Can't say that I have. Unless you count the mouth...but I don't think that is what this meant. And of course I have done the edible ON the body thing...my lesbian phase in high school included full on body sundaes...chocolate sauce, cherries, the works. Pretty hot.

2. Have you ever had an AIDS test due to reasonable suspicion or hyperactive imagination? Unfortunately, yes. I had medical issues that were unexplained over a year ago, and every time I would Google the symptoms HIV would pop up. I got tested for everything under the sun (all negative, thankfully), and have not taken stupid risks since.

3. Have you ever fantasized about someone else other than your partner while you were engaged in sex, oral sex, or mutual masturbation? Not until Steven came into my life. I have a hard time not being in the here and now, but since Steven there have been a few times when I have been with my husband and closed my eyes and tried to be somewhere else mentally! Masturbation and oral are easier to do this with, and yes, I have done that too.

4. Have you ever engaged in sex, oral sex, or mutual masturbation while in a moving car? A car being driven by someone not engaged in the sex, oral sex, or mutual masturbation? I have never had sex in a moving car. However, I have done everything else in a moving car, including oral and mutual masturbation. And yes to the car being driven by someone not involved in the activity...when my husband and I were first dating we had a friend that didn't have her license, and she loved to drive us around in his car...while we were in the back seat...

5. Have you ever had sex so many times or for so long that one or both people involved runs dry? Lube was created for a reason. Sometimes great sexathons need some lube...and sometimes lube is just fun for the hell of it!

Bonus (as in optional): Name 5 things an unplanned (or planned) visitor would find in your bedroom? A messy closet, my outfit for tomorrow set out, pictures of me as a kid, a giant jar of change, and a treadmill that I need to get to know better.

T.M.I. TUESDAY

1) If you were to only live until the age of 50, how would you live your life differently?

I would stop the chaos. Slow down. I would want to be with Steven FOR REAL right this very second. I would travel. I would cherish the smallest of small things with my children and family. I would take dance lessons, get a tattoo, and pierce my nipples. I would push myself in every aspect...professionally, physically, sexually, mentally.

2) Are you settling in your job/career?

Yes, and no. I have an amazingly flexible schedule, which I can't put a price on. It has enabled me to be home with my kids a significant amount. I feel that on a small scale that I make a difference in doing what I do. What I feel the best about is that I give young people positive work experience that they can (hopefully) take elsewhere as they move on. However, I am settling in some aspects because I am worth way more money than I am paid. I am smart enough to be doing something way more complicated. Not trying to sound arrogant, but it is the truth.

3) Are you settling with your significant other?

With my husband? Yes. Steven? No. HOWEVER...I am DONE settling within my marriage, and won't for much longer.

4) How important is your family?

My family is my everything. My kids are my world. My sisters are my best friends. My mom, while frustrating at times, is very important to me (maybe too important). I have friends that are like family to me as well.

5) If you caught a neighbor peeping in at you while you were naked or having sex, would you close the blinds? (assuming you live in a city and can see into other buildings).

Hell no. Anyone that reads this blog knows that Steven and I get off on being watched now and then.

T.M.I. TUESDAY...SLEEPY TIME

1. Do you have "your" side of the bed? Which side?

I don't have a side that I prefer, but I think I have always slept on the side furthest from the door. Steven told me that it is an instinct or something like that. It really stems from a fear of smoke detectors I had as a child...I wanted to be as far from them as possible.

2. How old is your pillow and what condition is it in?

Relatively new, and in good condition. All three! Ever since seeing an Oprah episode that talked about scary pillow facts, I have gotten neurotic. I replace pillows! Often!

3. What is your favorite position to sleep in?

My ultimate favorite is on my stomach. However, when I have stayed the night with Steven, I tend to be on my side snuggling with him.

4. How often do you change your sheets?

Weekly.

5. What helps you fall asleep when insomnia strikes?

Reading, watching TV (cooking shows and the shopping channel are guaranteed to relax me and knock me out), Tylenol PM, sometimes sex.

6. Does sex make you sleepy or energized?

Depends on the time of day and the type of sex. And I suppose, given my situation, who the sex is with. I can't tell you when I have had sex with my husband and felt ENERGIZED afterwards. It's been YEARS. Steven and I have sex that makes me giddy and energized, and we also have sex that makes me want to cuddle up and sleep because I feel so fulfilled and complete. It just depends.

7. What is the minimum amount of sleep that you need to be functional the next day?

I can "function" on a few hours. I feel best with anything over 7...but the reality is that if it is 5 or 6 hours, I am just fine...my friend STARBUCKS helps too.

T.M.I. TUESDAY

1. Family is...wonderful, stressful, fun, drama. All of it. You love your family because they are family, but some of my most challenging relationships are with those genetically tied to me. I want my children to grow up knowing that a family is what you make it, that you don't have to be related to someone for them to be family, and that the more people that you have around you that love and cherish you the better life is.

2. Friends are...complicated. I need my girlfriend time now and then, but my true friends in this world aren't who I would call my best girlfriends. I have a co-worker that has shown more support and trustworthiness to me than some of my best friends. My youngest sister is a best friend and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for her. And Steven has turned into my one and only best friend in this world. He knows everything there is to know about me, and loves me unconditionally. I tell him everything, trust him with anything, and feel the best when I am with him.

3. Exes are good...learning experiences. I have figured out what I like, don't like, and how a perfect relationship would look to me. Exes are like experiments...you can't be mad if the results aren't what you expected. Live, love, and learn.

4. Strangers...make me nervous. I am skeptical of people that I don't know. I hold back, and resist getting to know people. You would have thought I would know better by now, because when I do get over this and get to know someone, I am always happy that I have done so.

5. Relationships are scary when they seem too good to be true.

Bonus: My first love was when I was 13. He was my first serious boyfriend, my first kiss. He was pretty developed for being 13...puberty wise that is. And he was sexually knowledgeable to a point that is alarming looking back on it. We had been together a few weeks when he kissed me and I thought it was the best feeling ever. A kissing addict was born that day in December of 1991. The physical aspect of our relationship escalated...he had parents that were way too trusting and left us alone way too much. He taught me how to give a blow job. He went down on me. We messed around like crazy, we got along great, and I LOVED HIM. We would talk about how we wanted to get married in 10 years...after college when we were 23. He had an honest to goodness mullet, braces, and lips that made me crazy. It is interesting that still, what turns me on most about a guy is his mouth and the area around his mouth. His parents smoked, and I loved to borrow clothes from him, and fall asleep breathing in the smell of him lightly laced with the smell of cigarettes. Also worth noting that smoking has never bugged me, and a yummy smelling guy that smells faintly of cigarettes is a turn on to me. In May of 1992 I lost my virginity to him (using 3 condoms...better safe than sorry). It was a one time deal, and through unfortunate circumstances (7th grade girls can be backstabbing bitches) our parents found out. Our relationship fizzled out from that point, ending a few months later. We were so used to being able to do whatever, and now we were under lock and key and watched like hawks. Playing video games when I knew how much I loved sucking cock wasn't cutting it. We had a rough few months once school started, typical teenage drama, but eventually remained friends, and when I have seen him as an adult here and there with our spouses it is all very friendly.

Someday it would be nice to thank this person for making my first sexual experience one that wasn't unpleasant, and I think that he should be thanked for teaching me to love the feeling of a hard cock in my mouth and the taste of hot cum running down my throat.

T.M.I. TUESDAY

1. Where was the first place you ever had sex?
In the woods behind my boyfriend's house. We were too young...13. And stupid too. We somehow thought that three condoms were better than one. Yes, three at one time.

2. How often do you lie?
Daily. I am having an affair. It goes with the territory. EVERYONE in my life is being lied to right now in some way shape or form, except Steven of course. He knows it ALL.

3. If you could only be one, would you rather be smart or good looking?
Smart. Smart people can figure out how to work with what they have to try to look good at the same time. Smart people also realize that anyone that is worth having in your life will not care what you look like.

4. Have you ever passed out or suffered memory loss from drinking too much?
Yes. It was dumb and irresponsible. Prescription meds that say NO ALCOHOL are nothing to mess around with. And the consequences were embarrassing.

5. Top or bottom?
I go where Steven tells me. It doesn't matter where he wants me, what matters is that it makes me hot when he tells me what to do and where to go.

Bonus: Do you have any catalogs for toys/videos/lingerie delivered to your home?
No. Who needs catalogs when there is the Internet?